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Should I be concerned that my husband is to tired to have sex?
I am 22 weeks and just to be fair to my husband who is really good to me I have had alot of problems with fibroids on my scyatic nerve which causes contractions and sharp pains in my legs. Lets put it this way I have far more bad days than good and my good days are really so far and few apart. Dr said at first no sex and we got the green light last week. We had sex once afterwards I did have contractions but we knew that could happen. I had one of my best days yesterday and really wanted to be with my husband and he said he was tired. I get tired of trying because I get turned down alot, even if it's just pleasing him. Yes I know I could do this myself but I miss my husband any suggestions? He knew he hurt my feelings and I tried to be understanding that he was tired but id like to have mine too! Should I be so upset that rejection is starting to be so common? This was happening before i got pregnent but now it's making me fustrated and angry. Talked to him and still no resolution.
I know exactly how you feel, as my hubby is the same way. We do go through times where its not bad, and we have sex 5-6 times in a month, but I have a higher sex drive than him, and I am the one bugging for it, and getting regected. It hurts, and it sucks. I used to get really mad, you can't help it, my chest would tighten, and I would think of all these things I coudl sy to him, but I bit my tounge. We have had many discusions over this topic. When I was pregnant, we never had sex past week 25 until once at week 34, which put my into early labour! lol, go figure. He just didn't feel comfortable when I started really showing, and said tha twhen we would start fooling around, it would make him think of the baby, and the mucous plug, and all the non sexy things, so I tried to be understanding about it, alot of guys just don't feel comfortable during later pregnancy, especially if they had a lower drive before. Now our son is 2, and on and off we have had these issues, the best advice I can give you, is try not to bug him about the sex. tell him how you feel, and that you can comprimise with him, but he needs to accept and understand your needs too. One thing that worked for us for a while, is we made an agrement that I would initiate 3 times a month, and he would initiate 3 times a month. That way, he was not rejecting me (although it still happened sometimes, but not as often) and he was initiating, after doing this for a couple of months, it wasn't an issue for a while, I never even thought about it, because he was meeting my needs. That has slowed down lately, but he has been on straight nights, so, I have to be understanding, and we are TTC, so, its really scheduled. Just remember that it is not you, has nothing to do with how much he loves you, its just a lack of sexual desire that I don't think we will every fully get. I still don't really get it, but the comprimise and talking about your feelings surrounding the issues help. Just remember to tread lightly as this is a hard talk for the husbands, just because the drive isn't there, doesn't mean the ego surrounding the issue isn't. Good luck with your baby, and the sex life!
